GayBCD with Farhad & Sunetro

Ep. 00: Introduction to GAYBCD With Sunetro and Farhad

1 min 1 sec

How do you learn a new language You start with the alphabet The ABCD of it all. Two blokes Farhad Karkaria and Sunetro Lahiri will do exactly that, trying to learn, unravel, uncover and discover a little more about being queer in todays day and...

Ep. 01: C for Coming Out

57 min 2 sec

On the first episode, Farhad and Sunetro share their Coming Out experiences and how their friends and family took it. They discuss how they had to teach the ABCD of What it means to be GAY to their parents. Does the process continue even when one is...

Ep. 02: P for Parents

53 min 55 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about their complex relation with their parents. They discuss how acceptance of their queer identity or coming out is just one step of the daytoday navigation of this relation. What is a dysfunctional family...

Ep. 03: S for School Days

51 min 46 sec

On this episode, we get introduced to two different kinds of kids from the school. Farhad represents the hyperactive, highly energetic and horny kid on one hand and Sunetro represents the extracurricular kid around the corner who jumps at every...

Ep. 04: C for College Days

52 min 19 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro spill the beans about all things queer from their college days. They discuss their crushes, watching porn, breakups, falling in love and being vulnerable. Did it help them evolve with their own personality What is...

Ep. 05: W for Workplace

53 min 26 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad discuss their work life and how inclusive it is or isnt. Do you tell people at workplace that you are queer Do you fear being discriminated due to your sexual identity Is workplace a safe space for queer people...

Ep. 06: A for Aging

43 min

Thirties come with expectations and anxiety but also a lot of learning. On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro share how it felt when they surpassed this threshold. Do you feel wiser or more broke Does it really get easy after thirty as they say Can...

Ep. 07: F for Firsts

45 min 57 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about many firsts of their life from first kiss to first sexual experience. They take you through the stories of their first date, first love, first crush and much more. Which first gay art inspired them...

Ep. 08: D for Dating Women

59 min 9 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro share their experiences of dating women. How is dating a woman different than dating a man How is it received when you come out to a woman you are dating What if other people around the woman you are dating get...

Ep. 09: H for Hobbies

57 min 56 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about their obsessions from childhood that made them feel they could be queer. They discuss the notsostraight hobbies and passions they followed as kids. Were they allowed to follow these passions or did it...

Ep. 10: F for F*ckBuddies

59 min 15 sec

On the new episode of GAYBCD, Farhad and Sunetro talk about different kinds of intimacy. Who is a fckbuddy Has the new dating culture affected our response to people we sleep with How do we understand polyamory and commitments Tune in to...

Ep. 11: F for Fashion

55 min 13 sec

On this episode. Farhad and Sunetro talk about how they have evolved in relation with their clothes. When Farhad points out how he has been shamed for not dressing up enough, Sunetro mentions his reclamation of fashion as the space. Why are flamboyant...

Ep. 12: B for Break Ups

1 hr 2 min 35 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro take us through the rigmarole of going through the breakup. They discuss what can be a healthy or a good breakup. Is there a formula to come out of it How different is it to breakup in a gay relationship Tune in...

Ep. 13: F for Friends

55 min 42 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about friendships with a nuanced perspective of how each friend adds to their life. Is it possible to let go of certain friends Can friendships be toxic Are straight friends different than gay friends Tune...

Ep. 14: Christmas Recommendations Special

54 min 43 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad round up their discussion on all things queer by recommending tv shows, series and movies that we can watch as we go on a Christmas break. How has the narrative around queer identities changed across years How have...

Ep. 15: P for Politics

1 hr 7 min 56 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro have the guest for the first time Madhuri Adwani who also hosts a show called Tapri Tales on IVM Podcasts. They talk about the current state of Politics in the country and their role in it. How political is...

GAYBCD Ep. 16: C for Cities

59 min 54 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad share their experiences of being from different cities and how it has impacted their identities. What is it like to be queer in the small town of Ranchi How is a Parsi queer boy looked at in Mumbai How is the life in

Ep. 17: H for High Fun

1 hr 1 min 53 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro talk about substance abuse, addiction, obsession and chemsex. As they share their personal experiences, they discuss different kinds of circumstances and behavior that lead

Ep. 18: P for Preferences

1 hr 1 min 2 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro talk about their preferences when it comes to choosing their sexual partners. Do these choices mean that one is racist or biased Is there a different reading when someone talks about what they prefer in their sexual

Ep. 19: Happily Ever Afters

59 min 37 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro talk about the idea of Happily Ever After that has been passed to us since childhood through fairy tales. Does it exist or does it have different versions Is it dependent on another person Is marriage the ultimat

Ep. 20: I for Infidelity

1 hr 1 min 2 sec

On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro discuss what it means to cheat someone when we are entering the age of open relationships. Is it emotional cheating or physical cheating Do we feel possessive about our partners

Ep. 21: Valentine's Special

1 hr 1 min 9 sec

On our Valentines Special Episode, Farhad and Sunetro analyze the importance and the hype around Valentines Day. Is it merely an extension of commercial consumption Does it put unnecessary pressure on the partners to go out of their way and expre

Ep. 22: Dating the Married/Closeted

45 min 23 sec

Who is straight enough Does platonic nonsexual relationship exist What happens when one hooks up with someone who hasnt come to terms with their sexuality On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro talk about dating closeted or married people and what are

Ep. 23: L for Long Distance Relationships

51 min 13 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about how long distance relationship is a relative term when one lives in Mumbai. Are we always in a long distance relationship when we depend on online platforms for all the socializing needs How do relationships

Ep. 24: Q for Quarantine

1 hr 12 min 13 sec

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about how the lockdown has affected all of us. Is it a reset button for the society Is it a doomsday call Or is it just another obstacle that we have to figure our way around Take a peek into the social and psyc

Ep. 25: A for Ask Us Anything

1 hr 12 min 34 sec

25 On our 25 episode pitstop, Sunetro and Farhad take a series of questions from the audience and answer noholdsbarred. From personal to social, we go through a wide range of questions and believe us when we say, its fun

Ep. 26: Q for Quarantine Part 2

50 min 44 sec

Continuing the quarantine series, this episode has Sunetro and Farhad discuss the couldbes, wouldbes and should bes of living life under lockdown. What does this lockdown mean psychologically, sexually and socially for us as individuals and a commun

Ep. 27: M for Money

1 hr 21 min 26 sec

On this episode of Gaybcd, Sunetro and Farhad try and disseminate what money really means for us. Do we control its effect on us or does money control us Whats the link between finding money and finding your happy Tune in to find out

Ep. 28: F For Food

51 min 38 sec

Is food just sustenance or is it therapy Or is it an even more deepseated emotional personification of dreams, desires and more Get surprising peeks into what food means for Sunetro and Farhad on a new episode of GAYBCD

Ep. 29: S for Second Chances

50 min 39 sec

When it comes to relationships, does over truly mean over Or are we willing to allow for second chances

Ep. 30: S for Sexting

1 hr 2 min 22 sec

With the lockdown on extended play, sexting is the closest to physical contact for a large part of the community. How does this play into the dynamics of authencity and roleplay Tune in this week as Sunetro and Farhad talk about it.

Ep. 31: R for Religion

59 min 10 sec

Does religion enable or disable Can religion today seamlessly blend with queer identities or does it need massive tweaking Is it a personal belief system or a communal moral compass

Ep. 32: O for Orgasms

1 hr 4 min 2 sec

Going nuts in this lockdown or busting too many Sunetro and Farhad talk about how theyve been keeping their testosterone levels in check and what an orgasms in itself means to them anymore.

Ep. 33: T for Therapy

1 hr 6 min 2 sec

Is therapy just chitchat with someone you dont know It is really necessary Does it really work Or is it just another drain on our pockets

Ep. 34: S for Self Care

1 hr 9 min 2 sec

I is an important word today, more than ever, while we all struggle with a sense of self under the lockdown. This week, Sunetro and Farhad talk about Self Care and its vital importance today, tomorrow and forever in keeping oneself feeling valued and up

Ep. 35: P for Pride

1 hr 38 min 11 sec

What does Pride truly stand for Is it merely celebrating your existence Or does it encompass a far wider conversation of pushing boundaries of tolerance and acceptance. In light of the Pride month, Sunetro and Farhad

Ep. 36: F for Father

1 hr 14 min 22 sec

Do fathers and queer kids have a tenuous relationship What are the generational challenges we can see fathers facing day in and day out What is a good father

Ep. 37: W for What's Popping?

1 hr 24 min 22 sec

In this episode we do a basic catchup on whats keeping us going in quarantine. From books to movies, music to a very random segue on how to separate the art from the artist. This episode is a mixed bag of fun.

Ep. 38: A for Ambition

1 hr 7 min 20 sec

Does ambition really push us forward, or does it, in covert and overt ways, hinder our progress What does ambition even mean in a world thats come to a standstill Hear Sunetro and Farhad unpack this topic this week on a new episode

Ep. 39: S for Self Worth

1 hr 5 min 53 sec

How fragile is the sense of self worth under the lockdown circumstances Are we more prone to doubting ourselves with the constant sense of static Sunetro and Farhad chat about the process of building self worth and its challenges on this weeks episode

Ep. 40: B for Beauty & Makeup

1 hr 28 min 11 sec

Beauty and makeup have always played a big role in the shaking up the traditional tenets of masculinity. What role do these elements play in todays day and age This week, Sunetro and Farhad talk about how curious,

Ep. 41: M for Maturity

1 hr 5 min 48 sec

Older and wiser what does that mean really This week, Sunetro and Farhad go on a rollercoaster of emotions to unpack the idea of maturity and the various facets it encapsulates for each of them

Ep. 42: N For Nightlife

1 hr 11 min 29 sec

Is a vibrant nightlife synonymous with the queer community Is nightlife where the community finds its freedom and expression

Ep. 43: S for Self Harm

59 min 26 sec

Trigger WarningIn a revelatory episode Sunetro and Farhad talk about the struggles of grappling with self harm in the wake of doubts, insecurities and pain.

Ep. 44: G for Grudges

1 hr 2 min 52 sec

As queer folks, more often than not, we do end up facing differing levels of censure. So what do we do with that grudge Hold on to it to motivate us to do better or let it go as the bigger person

Ep. 45: C for Cynicism

1 hr 7 min 20 sec

When the worlds on fire, a little cynicism is a given. But at what point do we become cynics. Is it an unavoidable phase of life that simply comes with clarity

Ep. 46: H for Hookups

1 hr 18 min 20 sec

Given the distancing weve experienced over months, what does the idea of a hookup mean to us now This week Sunetro and Farhad chat about how their

Ep. 47: C for Cool

59 min 12 sec

Whats cool, whats not Are we cool or are we not Much of growing up is figuring, building and then dismantling the idea of cool. This week, Sunetro and Farhad dig deep into their journeys over the years grasping the spectrum of cool and uncool.

Ep. 48: C for Children

57 min 32 sec

What does a child mean in todays day and age for the queer community Is it a dream thats past reality for us or is it something we can still hope for

Ep. 49: M for Mr. Right

1 hr 9 min 27 sec

Are we too judgemental and too critical while setting up the foundation for our partners in todays day and age How realistic are we while we pick these yardsticks

Ep. 50: D for Dating and Age Difference

59 min 21 sec

Whats better, dating someone younger or older While theres never a definitive answer, hear Sunetro and Farhad talk about dating on both sides of the age pool.

Ep. 51: L for Looks

1 hr 6 min 46 sec

In the increasingly judgemental world of online dating, especially in the queer sphere, can we ever really be free of the impossible standards we expect people to adhere to

Ep. 52: S for Straight Obsession

1 hr 27 min 54 sec

Want to hear Sunetro and Farhad duke it out on a topic Heres your chance to hear multiple perspectives on what being attracted to straight individuals feels like. Is there a rough power dynamic in the works always

Ep. 53: C for Checking Your Privilege

1 hr 10 min 22 sec

Where does the act of checking ones privilege tip from necessary self awareness to self flagellation This week, Sunetro and Farhad try and uncover the idea of privilege in its various forms and the power and problematics of that term.

Ep. 54: F for Festival

58 min 45 sec

Whats celebration looking like this year Grim and subdued Or a shifting sign of new beginnings On this weeks episode, Sunetro and Farhad discuss how they plan to bring in the festive cheer the queer way with a heartfelt message for all the fans out

Ep. 55: O for Online Hate

1 hr 1 min 24 sec

How does one, in a world pervaded by the digital experience, exclude and remove oneself from being a victim to online hate How does one even begin to not let it control their lives, perceptions, mental health et al

Ep. 56: S for Singlehood

54 min 21 sec

In the midst of a raging pandemic, has singlehood and personal space taken on a new meaning Have we entered a new era where company and companionship is craved more than ever

Ep. 57: S for Starting Over

57 min 35 sec

Why do we fear any kind of reset in our lives What does it take for the positives of starting over to overcome this very fear This week, Sunetro and Farhad talk about how starting over in any sphere of life, be it love, friendships, jobs, geographies

Ep. 58: E for Etiquette

59 min 19 sec

Who pays for the bill on a date How bad is it to ghost someone Is there a polite way to ask your new fag hag to calm down Join Sunetro and Farhad this week as they discuss the unspoken etiquettes and manners of being gay.

Ep. 59: S for Stereotypes

1 hr 9 min 42 sec

When it comes to queer folks and stereotypes, is it a case of no smoke without fire In a lighthearted episode, Sunetro and Farhad toot, boot and shoot the most oftused stereotypes within the community and investigate if theres actually some

Ep. 60: Sibling Rivalry

51 min 52 sec

Siblings, especially if not queer, can play an important role in the lives of queer folks. Sometimes proxy parents, sometimes proxy confidantes and sometimes proxy objectors even. Is there a guidebook to make it work with your sibling

Ep. 61: M for Manifesting 2021

53 min 33 sec

Lets end the year on a hopeful note, shall we More than anything, this year has taught us the importance of looking forward and keeping hope alive. This week, Sunetro and Farhad manifest 2021 and what it can bring along with it in the last

Ep. 62: W for What If We Were Straight

58 min 43 sec

Have you ever thought how different life would be if we were straight Would we be a drastically opposed version of us Or would we, at the core, still be the same

Ep. 63: P for Pop Culture Round Up 2020

42 min 52 sec

Its time for another yearly binge report of all things Farhad and Sunetro have consumed in this godforsaken year. From the best films to everything pop culture related heres tons of things they discovered, loved and hated in 2020.

Ep. 64: H for Health

58 min 44 sec

In this episode, our hosts Farhad Sunetro have a healthy conversation about workouts, diets, lifestyle and organic products. They talk about health in general, in the pandemic and for the queer fam.

Ep. 65: B for Best Friends

49 min 18 sec

Can a person have just one best friend Does the concept of best friends stay relevant as we grow older Also, dont we all know of that girl who has a gay best friend that she is super comfortable with and people are slightly jealous

Ep. 66: P for Pains of being Gay

1 hr 35 min 44 sec

Being queer, a lot of energy is spent giving explanations for the most basic things, often to the point of having to justify existence. Nope, were not being dramatic here gasp If you live in India today, youd know

Ep. 67: B for Breaking the Top-Bottom Binary

52 min 57 sec

In this episode, Farhad Sunetro discuss the slow decay of the topbottom dichotomy. In an age where gender and sex as constructs are being questioned, breaking this binary is something they ponder about.

Ep. 68: P for Pets

1 hr 0 min 1 sec

Farhad has been a cat parent for almost 5 years and Sunetro recently embraced parenthood by adopting a puppy, and he has been on cloud nine ever since So this week they decided to talk about their respective babies and about pets in

Ep. 34: (Rebroadcast) S for Self Care

1 hr 9 min 2 sec

This is a rebroadcast episode.I is an important word today, more than ever, while we all struggle with a sense of self under the lockdown. This week, Sunetro and Farhad talk about Self Care and its vital importance today, tomorrow and forever in keepi

Ep. 69: H for High on Hygiene

1 hr 0 min 44 sec

This week our boys invoke their inner Monica Geller as they dive into the discussion around cleanliness and hygiene. Whether its a conference or a date, a person or a pet, maintaining basic hygiene is imperative. Listen up as Farhad and

Ep. 70: G for Gay Superheroes

53 min 47 sec

This week Farhad and Sunetro talk all about superheroes.

Ep. 71: Q for Quarantine Connections

33 min 50 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk about socializing in the times of Corona

Ep. 72: S for Savings

1 hr 3 min 21 sec

Farhad and Sunetro talk about saving money.

Ep. 73: R for RuPaul's Drag Race

58 min 36 sec

Its a fun episode today with Farhad Sunetro talking about RuPauls Drag Race.

Ep. 74: C for Commitment Issues

54 min 8 sec

Commitment the act of belonging to someone completely, and the issues that come with it.

Ep. 75: Ft. Palash Borah & Sanyam Sharma, Blued India

1 hr 13 min 14 sec

Palash Borah and Sanyam Sharma from Blued India have an insightful conversation with our hosts.

Ep. 76: H for Homophobia

59 min 21 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss Homophobia.

Ep. 77: ft. Ashish Chopra, Co-Founder, Beunic India

1 hr 15 min 43 sec

Farhad and Sunetro discuss Pride Consumerism with Ashish Chopra

Ep. 78: ft. Suresh Ramdas, Mr. Gay India 2019 & LGBTQIA Corporate Inclusion Specialist

1 hr 3 min 55 sec

In this episode, Farhad Sunetro discuss the new normal in Queer relationships and their life in general with Suresh Ramdas.

Ep. 79 ft. Sulagna Chatterjee, Screenwriter

1 hr 2 min 25 sec

Farhad and Sunetro discuss Queer representation in Pop culture with Sulagna Chatterjee.

Ep.80: ft. Raqeeb Raza, Artist

1 hr 8 min 44 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk about art with Raqeeb Raza

Ep. 81: S for Support Systems

1 hr 11 min 43 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk about the people the empower them.

Ep. 82: S for Sex Based Addictions

53 min 55 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss their Sex Based Addictions

Ep. 83: ft. Kavish Sinha, Casting Director, & Owner, On-My-Kayroll

1 hr 6 min 37 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk to Casting director Kavish Sinha

Ep 84: O for Oops Moments

1 hr 6 min 43 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk about their oops moments in bed

Ep 85: R for Re Entering a post-Covid World

50 min 13 sec

Farhad and Sunetro discuss resuming life after unlock

Ep 86: H for Hang Ups

1 hr 1 min 36 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss lifes little hang ups

Ft. Francis Fernandes, Co-founder and Chairman of Goa Rainbow Trust & Chris Fernandes, CEO & Founder of Goa Rainbow Trust

1 hr 16 min 1 sec

Farhad Sunetro speak to the founding members of Goa Rainbow Trust

L for Living Alone

1 hr 4 min 28 sec

Farhad and Sunetro discuss the pros and cons of living alone

Q for Queer Sex in Pop Culture

1 hr 4 min 3 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss the portrayal of intimacy in Queer pairs on screen

C for Complexes

1 hr 4 min 13 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss Inferiority and Superiority complexes

ft. Unnati Bhardwaj, Mental Health Practitioner

1 hr 33 min 13 sec

Farhad Sunetro speak to Unnati Bhardwaj, a queer affirmative mental health practitioner

ft. Manish Vyas, Entrepreneur

1 hr 14 min 22 sec

Farhad Sunetro speak to Manish Vyas about building businesses

Q for Queer Icons

1 hr 16 min 15 sec

Farhad and Sunetro discuss the top Queer Icons from pop culture

GayBCD with Farhad & Sunetro: R for Rejection

1 hr 3 min 8 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss Rejection

ft. Sybil Shiddel, Communications Manager, Gleeden

1 hr 5 min 21 sec

Farhad Sunetro chat with Sybil of the Gleeden App

F for Feeling Festive

51 min 57 sec

Festivities might not be for everyone. To each is own.

F for Family Burdens

49 min 40 sec

Farhad Sunetro discuss their love and hate for family.

S for Sexlessness

46 min 59 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk about the feeling of sexlessness

ft. Sonica Aron, Managing Partner, Marching Sheep

1 hr 17 min 56 sec

Farhad Sunetro talk about Diversity and Inclusivity with Sonica Aron from Marching Sheep

C for Century!

39 min 58 sec

Farhad Sunetro look back at the journey as the show hits a century